People and how to deal with them-Part 4 — 19 Comments

  1. the article about manners is just great, I think I should send it to some people around me :o) I have some wonderful old books about manners, I’ve found within the estate of my great-uncle. There was one etiquette rule what I will never forget: a man should’nt dance with a woman while having a cigarette in his mouth. (probably a book from neander valley LOL)

  2. Oh how perfect is this. I am validated. Kindness, manners and respect are never outdated. NEVER. As I read the Common Sense manners, I see that it is NOT COOL to make jokes if someone gets hurt. It is NOT cool that is someone’s feelings are hurt, that the behavior should continue with, “OH, you’re so sensitive…BUCK UP and don’t take things so personal!” As a teacher as well, I cannot tolerate when YOUNG KIDS think they can speak back to a teacher in a disrespectful way. I do believe however, that teachers are not always right, and a student DOES have a right to question, but to do it gracefully, privately, and in a respectful manner. Yawning, and especially OUT LOUD (it happens!) is so dang rude. Yes, manners must be taught, and I fear that in this day and age, many people don’t care to teach them. Awesome post, Mary! Anita

    • Thanks for the great comment Anita. I bet as a teacher you are on the front lines of seeing where the manners are going in the world today. Clearly, they are going in the wrong direction.

  3. Good morning, I agree kindness and manners are never outdated. Parents should be teaching their children to be respectful and manners at an early age. Great post. Happy Thursday!

  4. Sadly “common sense” is not very common. I do think many people are rude and have no idea they are. AND I may be guilty too as I’m certainly not perfect.

  5. “…no person is too big to be courteous, although he may be too small.” Thumbs up :-)

    Articles like this leave me feeling torn. On the one hand, I agree with the points; on the other, it implies that everyone gets to choose how they respond to social situations. Granted, at the time it was written people believed that. We now know however, that an increasing number of people are born with Autism and even the most high functioning Autistic person has impaired social judgement – if someone does not explicitly state rules for every single social situation (and then every variation of that situation) then a person with Autism will be left mystified by why they have [unintentionally] insulted someone. Tolerance needs to go hand in hand with good manners; not everyone has the same capacity to understand the unspoken rules.

    Okay, I need my soap box back now to reach something off a high shelf in the kitchen….

    • Great points, and certainly some people have a harder time with social situations than others. I think this is were manners from everyone comes into play. If you see someone who is having a hard time, give them slack, or maybe help them out somehow.

  6. Mom is like my sisters and I, doesn’t like to be told what to do. In college she saw a career counselor who said Mom needed a job with a lot of independence and she should never consider the military as it would be her worst nightmare. The world needs independent folks and folks that don’t mind being “directed”.

  7. I’ve been saying for some time that basic good manners and respect have pretty much gone out the window and self-centeredness has taken over. Since they were discussing it sixty years ago, I guess it was on a steady decline all these decades and now it’s just an “in your face” everyday kind of objectionable behavior. And it’s only gotten worse with the anonymity of the internet. But it was also interesting to read about how more college grads were opting for corporate careers instead of becoming entrepreneurs – I just recently heard a statistic saying the opposite of today’s college grads because corporations aren’t hiring enough of them and the pay is generally pretty low while expectations of time commitments are unreasonably high. So more college grads are starting their own businesses. I’ve seen that in my daughter’s friends as well – they’re all 20-somethings and the majority have started their own businesses. My daughter works for a corporation but has her own business on the side, which she hopes to make her full-time career. So I guess the pendulum has swung back the other way, mostly out of necessity.

    • I would say that overall the behavior of people has declined dramatically. And how sad is that? What will people be like in another 50 years? Scary to think about. And self employment is tough. So I’m glad to see more young people thinking they can make a go of it. There will always be those people I think.

  8. What a fascinating post. I also think it’s interesting that when looking at the layouts, they are sparse, clean and with very view ‘icons’ and no colour — in today’s world, our busy-addicted minds crave wouldn’t allow for such clean copy!

    • I think the layout was by necessity too. Probably back then color was more expensive to print. One thing i love about these tiny magazines is the articles are short, sweet, and to the point.

  9. So interesting. Two of those tie together for me, because one reason I always wanted my own business was because I hate being told what to do!

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